from the article: http://www.ou.org/life/relationships/didnt-love-wife-got-married/#.UpavVOK6sX4

I really, really, feel sorry for Mr. Nehorai.  Many, many people feel the emotion called “love” before, during and after marriage, and it IS a deep burning desire for another person.  A tender and just and wonderful feeling that no one can ever describe EXCEPT DISNEY.  That’s why I love Disney movies.

Do we have doubts, do we get negative feelings in our brains. Well, that is our own fault and it has to do more with brain training (Buddist monks know how to do this) more than than anything else. My life has been soooo much better when I learned how to do this.  You have guardian angels all around you, you think they want to constantly listen to negative, whiney thoughts?  Heck nope. Fix your brain, not your environment!  How is it we can spend 3 to 7 hours per week exercising our bodies, but zip on our brains, but I digress.

I am very sorry Mr. Nehorai missed the twinge that comes when you find your kindred soul on earth.  perhaps it is that we no longer have to be tied to those that aren’t it, and we are willing to find it, that the divorce rate is high. that doesn’t make it wrong.  people deserve happiness.  it is hard, if not impossible to judge someone else’s feelings.

My advice to you Mr. Nehori, as tough as it might seem, is that YOU DO YOUR WIFE NO FAVORS WHEN YOU PUBLICLY SAY YOU DON’T LOVE HER AND CONTINUE A SHAM MARRIAGE.  I’m sorry, but you have just insulted your wife, marriage and the deep, most profound bounds of love that many, many people have found and cherish to the depths of their heart and soul.

To deny love is the SAME AS DENYING G-D.  It’s just not done.

Either get your head and your heart in shape, or get the heck out and let her go to love someone who can feel that feeling and make her feel like the greatest Disney Princess on earth.

You are a cad, and I’m sorry to say it. I feel deeply for you.

So your excuse is fighting, lack of money, lack of what?  What IS going on in that head of yours?

Fighting?  Fighting?  are YOU kidding?  Fighting is the absolute best for make up sex!

It’s okay to fight with your spouse over money, in laws, children discipline, but then go on a date and make mad, passionate love to your spouse.  the problem is not in the fight, your problem is in the forgiveness, your unwillingness to let go of negativity and let love flow again.

Again, I think you owe your wife a HUGE apology and I think you need to get to a good therapist to get to the bottom of your issues with freely loving another human person, completely, totally and passionately.

If you asked her to marry you, there is something there.  You made love once to make a daughter, there is something else there. Where and when did you let that go? Why did you let it go?  most likely YOU are afraid of being hurt–not her and not the marriage.

There are all sorts of ways to remedy your problem, but to post it publicly makes YOU look bad and not her.

I want to know, how does SHE feel about you?  How does she feel about your posting all this crap denying and denigrating love?  How does G-d feel about it?  Don’t you think a bit of denigration of the Divine’s greatest gift is a bit apaling?

And yes, love, hate, jealousy, tenderness, caring, understanding, patience, sympathy, empathy are all emotions.  You need to FEEL what you say. Be in the moment.

Do you love a flower?  Do you love a baby’s cry?  How do you FEEL? What makes you love, what makes your feelings tender, soft and sweet?  Does your wife do that?  Why or why not?  what is your passion and what makes you sing the same song the caged bird does?

Your wife can wait for you to get your head straight on, but I am not fooled by your article.

I believe in love, in tender feelings, in peacemaking and peacegiving.

From the day you meet that person until the day you say the final good bye.

And I am also a wife who (honestly) jokes, if I die, find a younger wife with larger *** that makes you happier, because I will always want you to be happy.

If that isn’t love, I don’t know what is.

John Lennon and Yoko Ono had a great love.

And I know you will never post this, so I’ll put it on my own blog at http://www.outfeminist.org.

Women have emotions, we don’t let go easily and we believe in romantic love, from the moment we meet someone till the day we have to say goodbye. That doesn’t mean we are door mats, we won’t do that, but we will always believe in love.  I do.