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Here is another thing that they did not discuss, which is very important, whether you believe it or not it is something to consider and save for later. That is, many times when we meet someone we might be drawn or attracted to them, or even infatuated, although we have a perfectly fine spouse or Significant Other (“SO”). The reason for that is these entities are actually old lovers or spouses from our past lives. We are not actually meant to leave our spouses or SO’s and run off with them. They are there to refresh our spirits, and at worst, they are a test that we can resist sexual temptation and have care and concern for our spouses.
People that have sexual issues and succumb to simple temptation and betray loving, caring spouses will find themselves involved with a whole lot of bad karma. It is extremely bad karma to betray a spouse or SO. In fact, it’s the type of karma that so bad, I would not wish it on my best enemy. It manifests itself in the following diseases: MS, epilepsy, quadraplegia, etc. because with those diseases you are completely dependent upon your spouse, and often literally cannot live without a caring, dedicated partner. Or at least you do not live well without a dedicated partner.
My advice is if you are attracted to someone and think your marriage is over is to work on your marriage first, and if there is an impasse with severely dysfunctional behavior on the part of the other spouse, then very well end it honorably. Make sure your spouse is provided for. Make sure you will be there for your children. If you can’t do that, then just don’t end it.
You really cannot very well desert a spouse or your children. You should not leave a spouse except for very delinquent behavior that is tatamount to abuse, and then your duty to yourself and children is to leave and make sure that you and the children are safe from that other person who is learning not to behave that way. Don’t worry about retribution or revenge–for the universe and karma will take care of those issues and you need not intervene.
Often when a person realizes that a severe attraction to another entity on earth is only past karma, this in and of itself solves the issue. The persons can be friends, but not to the extent that it threatens the other spouse or SO. Care and caution must be taken often.
One of the highest duties you learn when you are married, is that you have to listen, communicate and assure your spouse you have no interest in other entities wandering the earth in a romantic fashion. They are friends you get along with well and that’s it.
Oh, and never worry that you haven’t met your “soulmate on earth.” I assure you that your soulmate isn’t here and that’s for a few reasons. The first is, earth is a learning experience and you WILL suffer trauma and pain. Because you are so connected, the trauma and pain instantly impacts your soulmate, but we are supposed to be on earth learning our own lessons, and when your soulmate is drawn into your pain too much, he can’t learn his own stuff he came here for. Second, the two of you would never get out of bed you would love each other so much.
Therefore, typically your spouses, lovers and SO’s will typically be what is called a kindred spirit or someone you have already known and loved “a thousand years” just like the song. Those attractions are easily sufficient to make a 75 year+ marriage grow and flourish.
There is nothing on this earth more attractive and attracting to us than our loves, friendships and personal interactions.
Spend a lot of time on love–it is mostly what you are meant to learn on this earth.
OU Feminist Goddess Answer 